When it comes to this three words, there can be a lot of pressure behind. When do we say it? What do we mean by that? Who says it first? Is there a right moment to say it? Does the timing play any role in it? What if we don’t get an “I love you” back? Such a simple sentence and so many questions.
Somewhere along the way, humankind decided to give these simple three words a significant meaning. These are only eight letters, that can change your relationship entirely. Eight random letters, three words, one sentence can cause a raised heartbeat or a heartache. Okay, in some languages there are more letters in some less, the point is the same. There’s no running away from the fact, that stating “I love you” makes us a bit nervous and it’s not as simple as it looks like.
I used to go all awkward by hearing this words. When a silent “I love you” rolled out of someone’s mouth for the first time, I tried to pretend I didn’t hear it, or I started laughing big time, but in all of those cases, I just made a stupid face expression followed by a clumsy move. I mean, after all, saying “I love you” for the first time, has an entirely different meaning than after a while, when you have repeated it, or repeatedly hear it for a few times. These three powerful words change the relationship for good. It’s no turning back.
All of a sudden, you stand there, in front of the person you have strong feelings for, in front of someone who makes you feel all fuzzy, joyful, and magical, and you can’t think of anything else than how much you love this person. But what comes out of your mouth can be a total disaster. Loving someone indeed makes us act all crazy. Simple words, you can typically easily express to your family or friends, become all of the sudden a whole new language.
However, when it comes to expressing the love, we ask ourselves a few questions first. Do I say it? Should I say it first? Will I get back the same response? Is it too soon? What if only I feel this way? We get scared and confused. Revealing our deepest feelings makes us vulnerable.
First of all, there are no rules about the timing. When you feel you want to say it, just do it, don’t hesitate for too long and don’t overthink it. If you don’t get the same response back, at least you know where you’re standing. The important thing is that you don’t regret saying “I love you”. Never regret it, no matter what.
Okay, let’s make something clear. By saying the powerful sentence you should be fully aware of it, you have to really mean it. In some situations, for example, right after sex, by being tipsy, or overemotional, you can later regret expressing this feeling, than in those situations your mind is not clear.
Simple advice, if you want to declare your love to your special someone, say it at the time when you feel the need to say it. It has to be on the tip of your tongue. When you know, you know. Feel it, and then say it.
“The regret of my life is that I have not said ‘I love you’ often enough.”
In the end, it doesn’t really matter when, how, or how often you state it, as long as you mean it. If you feel it, you should get it out in the open. Otherwise, you can regret it for the rest of your life.
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